Someone with anxiety is inclined to assume everyone is going to leave. So much so, sometimes they might be the ones to ruin a relationship.
The truth is they battle something they can’t control and there is a sense of insecurity within themselves when it comes to relationships.
1. Remember they’re worth
It might be hard sometimes, there might be stupid fights of scenarios they’ve created in their own head. But more than anything, they’re worth fighting for, if you can fight with them through this, it’ll come back to you ten folds.
2. The phrase, ‘It’s okay,’
can never be used enough.
It’s two words. Two words that stop every thought running through their head. And honestly, you can never say it enough.
3. Sometimes you just
have to listen.
They’re going to play out these situations in their mind and jump from point A to point B, sometimes you’re not even going to know how they got there, best thing u can do is let them go off on their tangent even if there’s no solution.
4. Don’t tell them,
To you, it might seem irrational. But to them whatever they open up to you about, it’s something that actually keeps them up at night. So just take it as best you can.
5. They probably won’t
sleep through the night.
Whether it takes them a while to fall asleep or stay asleep, you’ll be woken up by them at 3 am as they lay there wide awake. Just hold them close and the comfort in your presence might be enough to get them back to sleep.
6. Remember it’s not that they don’t trust you. They’re scared.
You say it’s an ex and in their mind, they jump to cheating. You say it’s a friend and in their mind, it’s someone trying to break you two up. It’s not you and your relationship that isn’t trusted,
….. it’s every worse case scenario automatically playing out in their head and they hate themselves for it.
7. Answering texts timely does
help more than you know.
You’ve probably noticed they answer embarrassingly fast and they know not everyone is like them but it helps when people understand it. It helps when you say ‘I can’t talk now this is why I’ll text you later.’ ……….
….. Silence kills anyone with anxiety. It creates problems in their mind that aren’t even there. It ends in apologies that aren’t even needed. And it adds a layer of stress to their life they wish they could control.
8. Don’t be mad if they
send a double text.
You might turn your phone on, to four texts. If you can remember it’s not that they’re trying to be annoying. They care. They care too much and they know it makes them look bad.
9. Accept their apologies even
if you don’t understand.
Whether it’s a night out gone wrong, a triple text, saying or doing the wrong thing, they’re so observant. They’ll pick up on slightest shift in you and before you even realize u might be upset and they’ll apologize.
10. Help when you can but
know when you can’t.
They would rather have ten meltdowns, biting off more than they can chew and they will never admit they can’t handle something. They’ll always say yes and never turn anyone away,
….. in those moments where it seems like they are going to fall apart and break just hold them. Help them if you can but know they’re inclined to not ask for help. They’re used to dealing with things on their own.
11. Once trust is gained they’ll
love you unbelievably hard.
Someone with anxiety, if there is something they’re good at it’s love. If there’s something they’re strong in, it’s their ability to show you how much they adore and appreciate you. It might take them a while…
to trust you but once they do their capacity to love you will fill you in ways, you didn’t know you were empty or even missing something.”
i hope this article made sense to everyone dating or wanting to date someone with Anxiety.